I don’ want to make him/her mad.
Types of Abuse in intimate partner relationships:
Physical abuse: any type of physical behavior used with the intention of controlling behavior (i.e. pushing, slapping, shoving, stabbing, pulling hair etc…)
Emotional abuse: attack on a persons self-esteem/emotions (i.e. calling his or her partner stupid, fat, ugly, worthless, etc….)
Mental/psychological abuse: Using fear and intimidation to get what he or she wants/Playing head games (i.e. “If you leave me, I will take the children…harm you…kill you. driving too fast to frighten or intimate his or her partner, etc.)
Sexual abuse: Any type of sexual activity that is forced/not consensual. (i.e. forcing a partner to dress sexier than he or she is comfortable, forcing/tricking partner into pregnancy, withholding sex as a means of punishing a partner or exerting control, etc….)
Destruction of property or pets: (i.e. breaking things, punching holes in the wall, kicking the dog or cat)
Environmental abuse: (i.e. isolation, sabotage victims support system, not allowing or sabotaging partners employment)
Regardless of the type of abuse used by the abusive partner, the catalyst for the abusive behavior is for the batterer to gain or maintain control over his or her partner/victim.
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